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"I don't want someone who puts mind games higher on the list than honesty."<\/strong><\/p>\n When you’re out at the bar and you spot a cutie, playing coy and making eye contact from across the room is one way to get his attention. So you brush past him, make eye contact and dangle the bait, but then you walk way. What comes next? <\/p>\n Studies have confirmed it works if you play it right. But does playing hard to get work on men? When women do this, it’s done both subconsciously or deliberately. The thing is: Guys do it, too. Except when they do it, we call it “weighing their options” or “scared to settle down.” If it happens at a bar, we just call him a jerk who can’t make his mind up or a slew of other NSFW language.<\/p>\n We asked guys if reading the signs was really all that simple: When women play hard to get, is it a turn-on, turn-off, or just plain confusing? Here’s what they said.<\/p>\n 1. Every woman does it.<\/strong><\/p>\n via GIPHY<\/p>\n \u2014Cody, 24<\/p>\n 2. It lets me know she’s interested.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2014Jason, 28<\/p>\n 3. It’s super-hot.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2014Jamal, 24<\/p>\n 4. It makes me feel unwanted.<\/strong><\/p>\n via GIPHY<\/p>\n \u2014Cole, 33<\/p>\n 5. It’s only a turn-off if it’s at a bar.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2014Alex, 26<\/p>\n 6. It’s a major insult.<\/strong><\/p>\n via GIPHY<\/p>\n \u2014Ryder, 25<\/p>\n 7. A woman who does that isn’t the one I want.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2014Pete, 30<\/p>\n 8. That’s why online dating exists.<\/strong><\/p>\n via GIPHY<\/p>\n \u2014Jimmy, 27<\/p>\n 9. It’s the reason I’ve ended relationships. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u2014Devin, 29<\/p>\n I agree that playing hard to get sometimes tips the scale too far in the direction of downright confusing, but you can’t fault us for wanting to take back a little bit of the power that was resigned to us when we thought that a guy’s holy rite was to make the first move.<\/p>\n Online dating might have leveled the playing field \u2014 and made it easier to meet someone who shares your interests, but it’s yet to obliterate playing hard to get.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" "I don't want someone who puts mind games higher on the list than honesty." When you’re out at the bar and you spot a cutie, playing coy and making eye contact from across the room is one way to get his attention. So you brush past him, make eye contact and dangle the bait, but then you walk way. What comes next? Studies have confirmed it works if you play it right. But does playing hard to get work on men? When women do this, it’s done both subconsciously or deliberately. The thing is: Guys do it, too. Except when they <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":189,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[2],"class_list":["post-204","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating","tag-dating","has_thumb"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/204","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=204"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/204\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/189"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=204"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=204"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dategd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=204"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}